Stop the blame game
When
things are going badly, couples tend to ask who is at fault and
which of them is to blame. Neither of these questions is helpful.Find time to work on your relationship
In today’s busy, modern world, you need to find time for each other. This is not easy if you both have hectic careers, and becomes even more difficult when you have children.But if you have established a will to make things better, then you need to look at your joint schedules and find time when you can be together.
Change the way you communicate
Frequently, couples stop making an effort with each other. They may insult each other or take each other for granted.Suppose the door bell rings. One partner may yell at the other: ‘Get that will you?’ It doesn’t take much effort to add the word ‘please’ or to ask in a different way, such as: ‘Would you mind answering the door?’
Change the way you communicate
Frequently, couples stop making an effort with each other. They may insult each other or take each other for granted.Suppose the door bell rings. One partner may yell at the other: ‘Get that will you?’ It doesn’t take much effort to add the word ‘please’ or to ask in a different way, such as: ‘Would you mind answering the door?’
Have an evening out
Try to have one evening out per week, just the two of you. If you have children this is more difficult to arrange, but it’s not impossible. And when you have this ‘date’, avoid talking about your offspring or work.Socialise as a couple
Another good thing to do is to make sure that you get some friends round on a regular basis, even if it’s just for a takeaway or supper round the kitchen table.More things you can do to improve your relationships.
- Talk with your partneropenly and honestly.
- Don't sacrifice yourself for the relationship.
- Take responsibility for your feelings.
- Know you can only change yourself.
- Be yourself always.
- Know your intentions behind your words.
- Communicate your wants and needs to your partner.
- Accept them as they are.
- Let go of absolute value judgments.
- Drop your expectations of how they "should" be.
- Listen with your whole body, mind and soul.
- Express your appreciation and gratitude openly and often.
- Examine your beliefs about love relationships.
- Use humor to defuse difficult situations.
- Examine your desire to control your partner.
- Have a dialogue about your beliefs.